Friday, May 15, 2009

Life in the past few months

I have have been having the most exhausting days of my life since March end. Exhausting, both physically and emotionally. After almost living in the hospital for around 10 days in March-April and then now again in May, has finally taken its toll on me. Going to the doctors, seeing my loved ones (my twin and my mother) in so much pain, is extremely painful. Thankfully, both of them are on their road to recovery, (*touchwood*), still there are times when i wonder why us, and that too so suddenly.
Having taken the round of hospitals and practically living there, i was invariably surrounded by some family, whos family member was suffering from some ghastly disease/problem. One such neighbour was a family where the father had just died, though not young but certainly not a die-able age. The mother was inconsolable and seeing her crying hysterically right next to me, moved me to tears. And surprisingly there were random people, who were just standing there and seeing the poor lady crying as if there was some show going on. Later on I found out that the mother became so ill that she too had to be admitted in Emergency. Imagine the plight of the kids.
At the second trip to another hospital for my sister, the room was shared by one more female, whose operation had gone haywire due to which she had to undergo the painful operation again. Its been three days since my sister's discharge and the poor lady is still in the hospital. The whole nights she would spend crying in pain and cursing the doctors. No amount of consolation was acceptable by her either from the doctors or by her husband.

Death is inevitable, yet the process towards it should not be so painful. I saw so many aged people, struggling to breathe, struggling to live. It was so painful to see those frail bodies being struck with needles everywhere. How frail life is.

These few months I also realised the genuineness of my so-called friends. Almost all of them did not bother asking for my mother's/sister's health at any point. It was always their after thought. Never once did they bother to visit. Those who bothered are friends for life. Glad i realised this soon.
:( Ending the note in not so cheerful note, will be back again when I am able to do write 'cheerfully' again.

Apologies to A and Nancy for not responding to their tags, hope you understand.
I guess I deserve an award for being the laziest blogger alive!! :)

14 comments:

Solilo said...

Saima, those are some tough times. Hope your mom and sister are doing good now. Don't bother about being laziest blogger because one should blog when one wants to. Why to make it a chore.

You had other priorities in life. Good to see you back.

BTW on your friends not even once visiting your mom/sister or calling to enquire about them. I always believe that test of true friendship is when someone is sick or down.

Reflections said...

I'm sorry but I dont understand...why r ur family in the hospital.
And u have a twin.....WOW...how exciting;-D.

Reflections said...

And hey no probs at all.....
Tags will wait, zindagi doesnt;-D

Wah, wah Nancy kya sher hai!!!!!

Just call me 'A' said...

Oh Honey, what happened. Hope your sis and mom is back at home and recovering. It must have been tough on you with two loved ones in the hospital. don't bother about the blogging part or the tags. blog when you want too and when you can. we're all here.
You have a twin? how awesome is that. :)

take care

Stupidosaur said...

Wish u and family well. As an absolutely new visitor, I don't have any right to ask, but what hqappened??

I remember 2 years of my life were spent majorly in hospitals - the last 2 years of granny's life that is.

Its really depressing.

Smita said...

Oh!!! What happened??? Hope ur bro n Mom are much better now....

Last month I had gone for annual Medical Checkup and what I saw in the hospital made me realize that we keep taking our health for granted.

Anyways cheer up everything will be fine and don't call urself a lazy blogger...

ananya chatterjee said...

godbless.....:)

Indyeah said...

(((hugs))))))*touchwood *that they are fine...

like SOlilo said..dont bother about being lazy or anything...coz life is about priorities na?and family is the very first one...


Solilo has said it all....

Friends show their true colours and one realizes a lot of things...it hurts for sure but one also grows up and matures

((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

saima said...

@Solilo: Thanks a lot :) they are much better now! thankfully!!

@Nancy: Sach main kya sher hai :) try doing a shayari blog !! hehe!
@Nancy, A, Stupidosaur, Smita: My mum had some heart problem and my sister had typhoid and Hepatitis A :( Thankfully they are back home!!
Yes having a twin is really cool :)

@Stupidosaur: Thanks for dropping by, i love ur blogger name!!

@Smita: I have a twin sister :)

@Ananya: Thanks a lot :)

@Indyeah: Thanks a tonne honey!! This means a lot :)

Thank you guys for all the wishes!! It means a lot to me :)
*hugs to all of you*

Chriz said...

that was a brave one... god bless you..

saima said...

@ Chriz: Thanks a lot :)

Nachi said...

Saima! hey! hopping by from your comment at the soup bowl...

...i totally understand the 'exhausting' part. albeit in a slightly different sense...

anyways, glad that you stopped by. call it a weird coincidence, but i just found out today that a very old neighbor of ours' also passed away during a routine surgery due to some complications on part of the medical team and her medical history. sometimes, despite being from a family full of doctors, all this just makes it all the more harder to trust somebody else with our lives knowing that all humans are prone to error and failure.

my best wishes to your mother and twin! may they have a speedy and healthy recovery...

God bless. *hugz*

ps: I am lazy blogger. no one takes that title away from me!

:)

Sunshine said...

aww that sounds horrible!!! *hugz* to u...i know nothing i say will make things better but still...

and don worry so much abt blogging...it shud b something u like doing out of choice and not a chore...

saima said...

@Nachi: Thanks a tonne for the wishes :)
are you really a lazy blogger??? well, since i am new, i'l just wait n watch :) *hugs*

@Sunshine: Thanks sweetie :) Well, blogging has become more of a habit now!! :D